Walk and Reflect: Learning Emotional Intelligence on a Breezy Sunday

What this episode is about

On a breezy Sunday walk, Hallie starts a series on emotional intelligence, inspired by 101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think, and asks why so few of us were ever taught how to actually feel our emotions.

She covers identifying and naming emotions, active listening, communication in relationships, social awareness, and choosing to respond instead of react.

Chapters

1. 0:00A Sunday walk
2. 0:29New year goals and getting moving
3. 1:25Why I love walk and talks
4. 2:23What I'm learning from 101 Essays
5. 2:49Your feelings aren't always accurate
6. 3:45Is my reaction helpful?
7. 4:39Emotional vs social intelligence
8. 5:58Practicing active listening
9. 6:51Becoming more adaptable
10. 8:11Wanting things done my way
11. 10:04Fixing problems vs hearing people
12. 10:59Stopping at the waterfall
13. 11:56When thoughts start to spiral
14. 12:51How we come across
15. 14:11Feel it, then find a place to process it
16. 15:30Manage your emotions
17. 16:30Quick recap
18. 16:55What's next and wrap up

Takeaways

• Most of us were never taught how to feel
• Naming an emotion takes away some of its power
• Responding instead of reacting is a choice you can practice

A question to sit with

• What emotion is hardest for you to name when it's happening?